The Mellow Moment of a Friendship

I’ve been staring at the blank page for i don’t know how long.

I have so many things in my mind to write about, but I stuck in my first word. I want to talk about friendship. This idea has been developed in my head since last night, but I hesitated…

I have a group of high school friends that we still hang out together regularly.We’re all girls and everytime we get together, I always feel like i’m in one of those chicklit novels…they like to talk about update gossips, trend fashions, work issues, boys, and recently…when most of them have boyfriends…they started to talk about the future. Out of ten girls, only two singles left…and one of them is me. Back then we often gather in the full formation…10 girls on one big table. That’s a heavy crowd… but things aren’t always as we expect them to be, right? There’re always a “crack” between some of us, or career barrier…or even the future plan, so that we don’t hang out in the full formation again. And soon, one of us is getting married. She’s gonna be the first and the first to go really far for probably a very very long time…

Well, this girl had been away for a couple of years when we’re still in uni. She went to study in US and just got back once a year every year. But this time is gonna be different. She’s getting married really soon and just days after that she’s off back to US to live with her husband for few years…and then they’ll live in Turkey for the rest of their lives.

I’m happy and sad in the same time. Well, this isn’t the first time my close friend is getting married, but the fact that she won’t be hanging out with us again… that’s quite…I don’t know what to say. This experience reminds me that we can’t hang out with our friends for the rest of lives. Soon, one by one every one will start her own family. Some will stay in the city while some others will probably start a new life out of town or even abroad.

You probably think i’m too melodramatic, but I think if you’re a person who value friendship seriously, you’ll understand what I mean and what I feel…

And I guess, the best song for this moment is “Graduation” by Vitamin C. This song was quite a hit when we’re in high school…and now we’re on our 25, we’ve already known what we’ve become…but still in question what the future will bring us.

“Graduation (Friends Forever)”

And so we talked all night about the rest of our lives
Where we’re gonna be when we turn 25
I keep thinking times will never change
Keep on thinking things will always be the same
But when we leave this year we won’t be coming back
No more hanging out cause we’re on a different track
And if you got something that you need to say
You better say it right now cause you don’t have another day
Cause we’re moving on and we can’t slow down
These memories are playing like a film without sound
And I keep thinking of that night in June
I didn’t know much of love
But it came too soon
And there was me and you
And then we got real blue
Stay at home talking on the telephone
And we would get so excitedand we’d get so scared
Laughing at ourselves thinking life’s not fair
And this is how it feels

As we go on
We remember
All the times we
Had together
And as our lives change
From whatever
We will still be
Friends Forever

So if we get the big jobs
And we make the big money
When we look back now
Will our jokes still be funny?
Will we still remember everything we learned in school?
Still be trying to break every single rule
Will little brainy Bobby be the stockbroker man?
Can Heather find a job that won’t interfere with her tan?
I keep, keep thinking that it’s not goodbye
Keep on thinking it’s a time to fly
And this is how it feels

[Repeat 1]

La, la, la, la:
Yeah, yeah, yeah
La, la, la, la:
We will still be friends forever

Will we think about tomorrow like we think about now?
Can we survive it out there?
Can we make it somehow?
I guess I thought that this would never end
And suddenly it’s like we’re women and men
Will the past be a shadow that will follow us ’round?
Will these memories fade when I leave this town
I keep, keep thinking that it’s not goodbye
Keep on thinking it’s a time to fly

[lyric source]


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